Cyber Bullying – Ignoring Is Bliss

Cyber bullying. One might say it is a rite of passage, which everyone goes through.

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Dear Cyber-Bully,

Let us start with you, a.k.a. the coward who hides behind the monitor and throw darts at the person you dislike. Whoever you are, you will most likely not look up the actual person in real life, and tell him/her “You Suck” in the face, even if he/she really do suck that badly. Instead, you send these simple messages with a direct intention to lower their self-esteem. In a sense, it is a form of self-indulgence where you simply want to bring others down and make yourself feel superior than them.

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But here’s the cold hard truth: When you press that “Send” button, you are actually admitting defeat, admitting that they are so much better than you, that you have to resort to such criticism to make yourself ‘feel’ superior. So in actuality, you are the loser! 😛

Yours truly,

Zyrogate Faine

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Dear Victim of Cyber-Bullying,

Don’t you agree that these cyber bullies are utter fishmongers? I mean, they simply ‘selfish‘ for a living. I can’t stand their unpleasant and foul smell! Anyways, getting back to topic. I believe that the Internet has uncountable features that really benefit individuals. However, there is this one aspect of it I am ambivalent towards – anonymity. Using an anonymous guise, they can hate on you as much as they like, but you can never hate on them, because you do not know who they are. Of course, you can hate their ‘avatar’ as much as you would like, but they know the real you, while you have no idea their identity. In a way, it is an unrequited hate, am I right?

This idea of anonymity is expounded in these posts: Don’t Let Anonymity Make You A Mean Person states how we should not take advantage of anonymity to hurt others’ feelings. What It Means to be Colourless on the Streets of Ikebukuro describes how behind that anonymous avatar, there is an actual human being. Therefore, be it anons or friends, we should always respect their feelings.

Yours faithfully,

Zyrogate Faine

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Dear Zyrogate Faine,

I CAN’T STAND IT ANYMORE. Everyday, anons send me questions and private messages, calling me names and insulting me! One of them even told me to go and die…

And so, I did. I drank bleach. I drank a lot of it. But my parents rushed into the room and sent me to the hospital in time. But then, the next day, I opened Facebook and I broke into tears. The post read: “She should try drinking a different type of bleach the next time.” I really feel like dying right now.

What should I do?

Yours sincerely,

Amanda Michelle Todd

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((This story is a true story. Amanda Todd was a victim of cyber bullying and committed suicide on the 10th October 2012. She posted a Youtube video before she died. Watch it here.))

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Dear Amanda Todd and Fellow Victims,

We, as victims of cyberbullying, need to understand that the best solution is to ignore these comments. Yes, I know it is easier said than done, but you need to enforce the notion that what others think of you do not matter at all!

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Let them laugh all they want, say whatever they want, it is just for them to feel good about themselves. As long as you love yourself and your family, no one’s negative comments matter. The goal is to bring you down, and if you let that happen, you won’t win against the bullies! If you learn how to ignore what they say, you are a QUEEN. Because you, just don’t give a hoot about what they say. Haters gonna hate, but you just flick your hair at them, in their face. Their razor-edged darts stream towards you, but you dodge them gracefully as you dance around in your gorgeous scarlet dress and 4-inch high heels, busy doing the flamenco and stamping on the ground like no one’s business. Not only do the darts not affect you, the breezes they produce as they whiz past you, make you all the more magical as your dress sways in the wind. The silver tips of the darts shine like glittering stars revolving around you, reflecting the blinding light coming from the ceiling.

You are the SUN, in which the whole universe oscillate around you.

The largest and most significant star in the entire universe.

Because ain’t no darkness gonna dim your light, sun.

Because ain’t no hate gonna bring you down, son.

Cyber bullying is not going to stop any time soon, considering that the world is becoming ever more technological. So the only way is to ignore what they say. Be the one laughing at the bullies, and not the one crying. And trust me, it gets better 🙂

Love,

Zyrogate Faine

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Cyber Bullying – Let’s Fight It Together

Believe In Your Dreams

Undoubtedly, all of us has dreamed of accomplishing something. Be it a future ambition, or even your New Year’s Resolutions, we often set aims for ourselves to inch forward step by step, and achieve the goal eventually.

Hmm... where did those post-it notes go? xD

Hmm… where did those post-it notes go? xD

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Some dreams can be as easy as 1,2,3, producing ripe and juicy fruits through pure talent.

Some dreams can be as ambitious as becoming the richest, but your efforts may seem futile at first.

Some dreams can be as tedious as climbing Mt. Everest, having to overcome many obstacles before finally reaching the summit.

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Always gonna be an uphill battle, sometimes I’m gonna have to lose~”

One of my favourite songs all time <3

One of my favourite songs all time ❤

But whatever it is, you should never give up trying to pursue your dreams. Be it typhoons or tornados, you should never be brought down. Gaia may chain you down, but it’s up to you whether you want to break free from the fetters and spread your wings. In other words, your potential may be limited through your physical environment, but you can overcome those limits through determination and hard work! You may have been born in a Less Economically Developed Country, and indeed, you may receive less resources and opportunities as a result, but that does not entirely prevent you from accomplishing your dreams. Life is unfair, so all you have to do is to put in more effort, in order to change your circumstances.

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However, diligence is not all that it takes to make your dreams come true, for it takes two hands to clap after all.

Other than working hard, you need to believe in your own dreams.

Now, what do I mean by that?

In my experience, I have met many people who are committed in saving the environment. But, the reasoning behind their ‘passion’ is that they were taught to do so from young. The notion that everyone needs to protect Earth, has been constantly instilled in them, to the point that they think it is only natural to do so. This is not wrong at all, but by doing this, you’re merely carrying out an ideal, and not, believing in your dream.

To truly believe in your dream, you need to be passionate about it, and understand that you’re doing this for yourself; for personal reasons and feelings. One may desire for world peace, but what is your motivation behind that wish? What is the rationale behind it? WHY DO YOU WANT IT? You may simply want world peace because that is the ‘correct’ thing to do, and not the thing that you want to do.

As a teenager, my teachers at school often ask us, “What do you want to do when you grow up?” Some would say doctor, lawyer and scientist, because that is often what their parents encouraged them to be. In fact, majority of students have yet to find what they themselves truly want to do… If you identify yourself as one of these people, it’s not a problem at all! Sure, life is short, but it takes time and experience to learn more about yourself. Would you rather spend a long time doing something you don’t enjoy, or enjoying something that you love to do for a brief period of time? I think most mentally-healthy people will choose a short-lived happiness, over plain torture…

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Anyway, I believe that Believe (One Piece OP2) is a very good summary of my post. For the song, there is an English Dub version, and I just want to highlight these two lines from it.

~I’m gonna follow my dreams, no matter how crazy they seem~

~Live how we want to~

Finally, I’d like to end off with this phrase of mine that I always repeat in my previous posts. I said it in my Christianity & Homosexuality post, and I indirectly mentioned it in my Fitting In post.

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Find your own dreams.

Believe in your dreams.

Strive to realise your dreams.

Thank you for dreami- I mean, reading 🙂