Cyber bullying. One might say it is a rite of passage, which everyone goes through.
Let us start with you, a.k.a. the coward who hides behind the monitor and throw darts at the person you dislike. Whoever you are, you will most likely not look up the actual person in real life, and tell him/her “You Suck” in the face, even if he/she really do suck that badly. Instead, you send these simple messages with a direct intention to lower their self-esteem. In a sense, it is a form of self-indulgence where you simply want to bring others down and make yourself feel superior than them.
But here’s the cold hard truth: When you press that “Send” button, you are actually admitting defeat, admitting that they are so much better than you, that you have to resort to such criticism to make yourself ‘feel’ superior. So in actuality, you are the loser! 😛
Dear Victim of Cyber-Bullying,
Don’t you agree that these cyber bullies are utter fishmongers? I mean, they simply ‘selfish‘ for a living. I can’t stand their unpleasant and foul smell! Anyways, getting back to topic. I believe that the Internet has uncountable features that really benefit individuals. However, there is this one aspect of it I am ambivalent towards – anonymity. Using an anonymous guise, they can hate on you as much as they like, but you can never hate on them, because you do not know who they are. Of course, you can hate their ‘avatar’ as much as you would like, but they know the real you, while you have no idea their identity. In a way, it is an unrequited hate, am I right?
This idea of anonymity is expounded in these posts: Don’t Let Anonymity Make You A Mean Person states how we should not take advantage of anonymity to hurt others’ feelings. What It Means to be Colourless on the Streets of Ikebukuro describes how behind that anonymous avatar, there is an actual human being. Therefore, be it anons or friends, we should always respect their feelings.
Dear Zyrogate Faine,
I CAN’T STAND IT ANYMORE. Everyday, anons send me questions and private messages, calling me names and insulting me! One of them even told me to go and die…
And so, I did. I drank bleach. I drank a lot of it. But my parents rushed into the room and sent me to the hospital in time. But then, the next day, I opened Facebook and I broke into tears. The post read: “She should try drinking a different type of bleach the next time.” I really feel like dying right now.
What should I do?
Amanda Michelle Todd
((This story is a true story. Amanda Todd was a victim of cyber bullying and committed suicide on the 10th October 2012. She posted a Youtube video before she died. Watch it here.))
Dear Amanda Todd and Fellow Victims,
We, as victims of cyberbullying, need to understand that the best solution is to ignore these comments. Yes, I know it is easier said than done, but you need to enforce the notion that what others think of you do not matter at all!
Let them laugh all they want, say whatever they want, it is just for them to feel good about themselves. As long as you love yourself and your family, no one’s negative comments matter. The goal is to bring you down, and if you let that happen, you won’t win against the bullies! If you learn how to ignore what they say, you are a QUEEN. Because you, just don’t give a hoot about what they say. Haters gonna hate, but you just flick your hair at them, in their face. Their razor-edged darts stream towards you, but you dodge them gracefully as you dance around in your gorgeous scarlet dress and 4-inch high heels, busy doing the flamenco and stamping on the ground like no one’s business. Not only do the darts not affect you, the breezes they produce as they whiz past you, make you all the more magical as your dress sways in the wind. The silver tips of the darts shine like glittering stars revolving around you, reflecting the blinding light coming from the ceiling.
You are the SUN, in which the whole universe oscillate around you.
The largest and most significant star in the entire universe.
Because ain’t no darkness gonna dim your light, sun.
Because ain’t no hate gonna bring you down, son.
Cyber bullying is not going to stop any time soon, considering that the world is becoming ever more technological. So the only way is to ignore what they say. Be the one laughing at the bullies, and not the one crying. And trust me, it gets better 🙂
Cyber Bullying – Let’s Fight It Together